The way we engage in social media is like a fire. You can use the to keep yourself warm and nourished or you can burn down the barn. It all depends on your intentions, expectations, and reality check skills.
- Be mindful of your suffering. Suffering is a part of life. In my words, recognize that “sometimes life sucks.”
- We are part of a common humanity. Suffering is not personal. Know we are not alone. “De-shame” the negative parts of our life and know that we are connected to others through our common humanity and experiences.
- Do what helps. Talk to yourself with a kind and compassionate voice. Identify what you would say to a friend or loved one and say those words to yourself.
“I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”