How many of us have a fear of failure?
Could you see your failure in a positive light?Fear of failure can have a huge negative impact on how we live our lives. It can stop us from taking risks or trying new things. For perfectionists, this fear can be even more debilitating.
“Perfectionism is self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
We have a choice - either let failure be what stops us, or use it to motivate us toward success.
In other words, with a growth mindset we don’t fear failures, instead we use them to create better opportunities.
With a fixed mindset, we stay stuck; with a growth mindset, failure can be our friend.
If I pay attention I can see examples of growth following failure all around me. When my son has a fantastic little league baseball game, hitting his first grand slam, I realized he had spent extra time focused on batting practice following a game where he struck out every time at bat.